Survival mode is about pushing.
Thriving is about letting yourself be pulled.
Pulled by Love. By your purpose. By all things good.
For a long time all I could do was stop pushing myself. This was a great start but it left me longing to participate in my life. I was longing to let myself be pulled by something. I was longing to be inspired to live my life again, but this time in a new way.
I thought I would be inspired once everything was healed. Once I could “get to the bottom” of my shame and “root it out,” then I could let Love pull me. Then I could show up and thrive.
My friends, endless psycho-analysis is a special form of hell.
This is because there is no bottom. There is nothing you need to fix before you can start thriving.
As you begin to thrive, yes, trauma will come up that needs to be unburdened. But the idea that you need to get to the bottom of your trauma before you can start thriving will leave you always looking for the bottom when there isn’t one.
If you’re always looking for the next thing to fix, how will you ever feel like you’re enough? How will you ever enjoy your life? The hell of self-psychoanalysis ends when you decide it does.
Love is constantly inviting you to have a conversation with Her. One about thriving. One about letting Love pull you toward the life of your dreams.
If you’re too busy looking for the next thing to fix, you’ll never join Love in that conversation. You’re so busy trying to find the bottom of what’s wrong with you that you’re missing out on all the good that is currently supporting you.
Even your self psycho-analysis is really just another way you are pushing yourself, albeit in the name of “healing.” It’s time to let yourself be pulled, lovie. Here’s how you do it.
You look for what’s good.
You look for everything that is supporting you right now.
You look in the mirror and you name three things you like in that reflection.
You make a note of all the things you did do today instead of all the things you didn’t.
You look for the good in other people.
You count your blessings.
I’m not asking you to ignore the bad. I’m not saying thinking negative thoughts is the problem. I’m saying only thinking negative thoughts is the problem.
I’m asking you to open up a little wide and make intentional space for good thoughts as well. Instead of just seeing all the bad around you, make intentional space to notice the good as well.
Instead of just seeing all the bad inside of you, make intentional space to notice the good as well.
Gratitude is your endurance as you transition from surviving to thriving. Gratitude is your endurance as you face and unburden yourself from your biggest fears.
As you make a habit of looking for the good every single day and in every area of your life that you can, soon enough you’ll start to be inspired. Soon enough you will begin to be pulled. Soon enough it will hurt more to stay hidden than it is to shine your light.
You experience what you look for.
When you look for the good around you, you are looking for all the ways Love is currently supporting you. You are looking for all the invitations Love is giving you to let yourself be pulled by Her and by your purpose.
If you spend you whole life trying to find the bottom of your healing before you begin thriving, you’ll never thrive.
It’s time to look for the good. It’s time to take Love up on all Her invitations to inspire you. It’s time to let Love show you what is possible in your life. Let Love show you just how worthy you are, and indeed, have always been.
If you’d like support in your transition from surviving to thriving, let’s talk. I’m a trauma-informed coach who helps people just like you really, truly, thrive.