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Trauma-informed coach helping survivors of narcissistic abuse thrive in relationships. IG + Twitter: @justjordinjames

Even the parts of you that are “broken” play an important role.

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There was once a water bearer in India that had two water pots that hung on either end of a pole that she strung across her shoulders.

Every day she would take the two pots down to the river, fill them with water, and return with the water back to…


Many of your parts believe the war isn’t over.

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A Japanese soldier named Hiroo Onda was the last soldier standing during World War II.

His commanding officer stationed him on an island in the Philippines and ordered him to stay fighting until they came to get him. Under no circumstances was he to surrender or take his own life.


This was a trigger I thought I’d never be able to get over. But I’m really doing it. Here’s how.

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I have been cheated on or lied to in every romantic relationship I’ve been in.

Now I am in the healthiest relationship of my life, but I can still get very triggered when other attractive women are present. …


While not formally discussed in any psychological modality, including IFS, my Guides have been absolutely essential to my healing.

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Guides aren’t necessarily a part of any psychological framework about the inner world, but connecting with a guiding energy or being can be really helpful for a few reasons:

  1. Guides can help us access our Essence (what Internal Family Systems calls the “Self”) even when our parts are totally blended.


I don’t think I’ll ever tell my mom this story…

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I went to Medellin, Colombia for a month to work with 30 other like-minded strangers who were also digital nomads.

Unsettled was the company that organized the trip, setting us up with a living space, coworking space, and an awesome community. …


I had never been to a gay club before…

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I went to Medellin, Colombia for a month to work with 30 other like-minded strangers who were also digital nomads. Unsettled was the company that organized the trip, setting us up with a living space, coworking space, and an awesome community. …


She had a lot of mind-blowing things to say.

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I was meditating and I saw Lakshmi, the Hindu goddess of fertility and abundance, who has been my guide to help me into abundance.

(And, by the way, it’s fucking working. She is killing it. And she’s such an amazing guide. I’m so grateful for her.)

So she appears to…

Jordin James

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